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Its Time to Thrive

Its Time To Thrive
 
 Judy Heaney-McKee is a writer and storyteller who lives in North Carolina with her husband and two daughters.  Visit her blogsite, Judith Heaney.
 
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Judy's thought-provoking observations about life with her Asperger-challenged daughter is available below as a single-page, PDF.  Download the microchap by clicking the title.  An excerpt from the book is also presented below.
 
 

 

 

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It's Time to Thrive

   
 
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It's Time to Thrive

            A mother speaks out
 
Life has been ratcheted up
in the overwhelm realm for so long,
I'm not sure how I'll respond
when the pressure lets up.

My teeth aren't always clenched,
but tend to be on that edge
even when they aren't.

I am preoccupied with the plight,
the struggle,
of my 8 year old Aspie.

Her anxiety and her overwhelm infiltrate
the moments of our days.

It's not her fault.
It's nobody's fault.

But it's hard to navigate those moments.

It can feel like walking through a minefield,
the anticipation of an explosion
or fallout too often palpable.

The unpredictability becomes a thick fog
that causes you to squint
even though you know
you won't see any clearer.
 
She craves a normal life, a regular life.
The life she reads about in the stories
she soaks up every day.
Like how she wants to go trick or treating
tomorrow night even though every attempt
at trick or treating has resulted in tears
and frustration.

"But that's in the past, mama," she tells me.

And she's right.

Asperger's becomes a mirror
that shows me my deepest flaws
and my deepest potential.

But also reminds me who I am,
who I saw myself as,
when I woke up this morning.

How I wish that any of my words
could capture the essence of these days
and this experience.

They can't.


But I write them nonetheless
because to hold them in too often
causes emotions to storm,
to pound against the levee of my heart
until I drown in uncertainty
and fear and doubt.

And I know it won't always be like this.
We will rediscover our rhythm
and our normal.

We will overcome the things that work
to choke the life from our days.

We will thrive.

Because I will pray
and I will seek God's guidance
and I will wait expectantly for Him to show up
and meet us where we are.
I will seek the abundant life for each of us.
I will claim the promises of God.

I will refuse to let these days define my girl
or our family.

I will refuse to let my fear define my parenting.

So, Asperger's,
know that I'm coming for you.

Know that I won't let you steal my girl's joy
or her spirit or her potential
or her gifts and talents.

She is fearfully and wonderfully made for a
unique purpose and you cannot take that
from her.

And one day very, very soon, my teeth will
not clench instinctively.

I will rediscover and reclaim the peace God
promises.

We will thrive.
We've survived for long enough.

It's time for us to thrive.


Judy Heaney-McKee © 2016

 

 
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